Originally Posted by Emperor Fabulous
Bear with me.... this one gets weird....
I'm 46 on Sunday. I was fine with 30, not that bothered by 40, and didn't even notice 41-45 going past, but 46.... that's closer to 50 than to 40.
50.
Fifty.
Jesus H.
Where the hell has my life gone ? I'm still 20 in my head. I haven't done a fraction of what I wanted to, nor achieved any of the 'basics' in life, like - own a house, have kids, have a pension to rely on in my old age. I'm 46, no savings, no house, a shitload of debt and no pension.
I'm now at the point where my age counts against me in job applications.
How the hell can I make up for all the missed time ?
This isn't how I hoped it would be.
Take heed all you young people... get your act together now, 'cos you'll take your eye off the ball and in the blink of an eye you'll find yourself middle aged and going "whoaaaa ! - what the fuck happened there ??!!! - last time I looked I was 26 !!!" In your twenties, you try to look ahead at the rest of your life and it's like you have eons of time laid out before you. At least I felt that anyway... I was unable to grasp the enormity of the endless decades ahead. There will always be plenty of time to do this, get that, sort out whatever.
No there won't. It passes silently and quickly without you noticing, until one day you suddenly realise how much time has gone and you never even saw it going past. The one thing I never understood in my younger days was just how fast it goes.
Get your finances in order. SAVE. (and yes, you CAN afford it, even if it's only a few quid a week). There are no second chances - it's a one-way one-time journey and before you know it you'll be trying to come to terms with the concept that there are more years behind you than you have left. That's a biggie - looking into your future and seeing the end of the line visible on the horizon for the first time. I dread to think what it must be like for folks much further down the line - to live with the idea that any particular day might be your last.
I've come to the conclusion that life is pretty shit. To be a creature that has a consciousness and understanding of the finite nature of it's own existence is a pretty shit thing to be. I'd rather be blissfully ignorant. You can understand people's desire to believe in religions that preach that death is not the end.
/midlife crisis
*p.s. No quotes from Floyd's 'Time' or Python's 'Meaning of Life' please
Realise that you're already dead and have lived this life many, many times before but consciouness is now giving you the option to decide exactly how you live it this time.
Jeeze is it Friday already?
you think that's bad I turned 20 yesterday!
20!
that's like a grown up adult age and stuff
I have 8 inches in my back passage (true story!)
stickyfiddle talks snow...
The last four years have gone so quickly, and I've spent most of them at Uni.
Frankly, it can't be over too soon (though I could do with another week to get all the work done!
I'll be 23 in a few weeks and whilst that doesn't seem old, it doesn't make up for the time I feel I've wasted. Still, I'm looking forward to the enthusiasm for everything else that'll come from finishing.
http://playitagainandagainsam.blogspot.com/
Emp - you realise you don't need to drop these kinds of hints mate. I'll always remember to do you a birthday thread
All practice and no theory
yes, but you hide it well
......"Bertie is pretty much a zen master..................."
Just remember Emperor Fab.........
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Am1kJM823Vk
Emergency Backup Forum (for when this place breaks)
http://musicradar.myfreeforum.org/index.php
You did that ^^, and are as made lots of us chortle profusely (well, me at least)
As the saying goes ,"Life's a bi*ch and then you die"
I'm in the same boat, more or less EF, so thanks for being Cap'n Grumpy Cnut!!!
Cheer up, at least you weren't born in Mogadishu!
Eh ? Who? What ? "and are as made lots of us...." ??
Are you saying that me creating the emergency forum made you chortle profusely ?
Que ? Me no comprende.
Chortle as in "Excellent, we have another place to go when this one breaks", as in "ha ha, look at this lunatic who's so addicted to the forum, he's created an emergency backup", or just plain "chortle chortle, uncontrollable hysteria, pass the medication nurse" ?
..or are you suggesting that the creation of a backup forum should count as one of my life's major achievements ?
Oh, I'm not grumpy, I'm more a mixture of being disappointed at my progress in life to date, somewhat worried at what the future holds, with a little bit of terrified of death thrown in.I'm in the same boat, more or less EF, so thanks for being Cap'n Grumpy Cnut!!!
Cheer up, at least you weren't born in Mogadishu!
As for Mogadishu - indeed, one statistic I read somewhere says that just by being a UK national automatically puts you in the top 10% of the wealthiest people on the planet, and being an educated white male of working age boosts me into the single digits. Hard as that is to believe whilst looking at my dire finances, it's undoubtedly true when you look at the world as a whole. This site has some amazing statistics on global wealth:- http://www.globalissues.org/article/...and-stats#src1
So, I have a lot to be thankful for, and it seems ingracious of anyone in the western world to moan about anything at all. But... I suppose it's all subjective at the end of the day, and financial wealth isn't the sole source of happiness. That reminds me - I think I'll do the lottery tonight - and this time tomorrow I could a millionaire !! .....or, infinitely more likely - a quid poorer
Oh, and ArDee - that song.... Jesus.... I was reaching for the razor blade after 20 seconds and had to stop it there for my own sanity ! Thanks for trying anyway
beer grammar!Eh ? Who? What ? "and are as made lots of us...." ??
Are you saying that me creating the emergency forum made you chortle profusely ?
Que ? Me no comprende.
Chortle as in "Excellent, we have another place to go when this one breaks", as in "ha ha, look at this lunatic who's so addicted to the forum, he's created an emergency backup", or just plain "chortle chortle, uncontrollable hysteria, pass the medication nurse" ?
A little from columns A, B and C
Last edited by littlegreenman; 24th April 2010 at 11:25 AM.
Aging Gracefully
I quite like getting older as I have come close to sampling the alternative on at least 3 occasions - two burst ulcers and nearly falling off a sailing ship dressed as Captain Bligh
EF seems to have an awfully traditional view of life
1 Unless you are a banker - senior executive - a criminal - or more likely a politician the average pension is not going to keep you in your old age anyway. You are probably at your age going to have to work until 70 in some form - so I would suggest reskilling urgently. Having a house is fine if you can get one cheap but also carries its own risks - ie your children put you in a home to get hold of your property. Renting is considered just as viable in lots of countries and the state cannot steal it off you
When I was 46 I was also in a big financial mess and had to get myself out of it - I know of one other forumite who also experienced this and sold himself out of trouble. It can be done but requires a lot. I am not being unsympathetic when I say its down you - just simply stating facts.because I hoped that something would turn up - it did - they are called bills and I had to get out and sort the mess myself
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